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What I learnt in 2022

Shelley

This is now my third year of writing a blog on my reflections and I must say, it's a ritual I do enjoy. I spent this morning scrolling through my camera roll, reminiscing the memories from this year, and I came to the conclusion: damn, I have a good life. Of course the photos are just the highlights and, naturally, there are ups and downs. But, what a privilege it is to have people in those photos who fill my cup, and to have seen all these beautiful places in the past year. Here’s a few things I’ve learnt along the way:


1. Live life to the fullest because you never know what is around the corner

This year, a boss who I really respect was diagnosed with terminal cancer. This really made me think about how important it is to enjoy your money and say yes to opportunities. He looks back on his life with no regrets because he's had such a good time - and it's inspired me to do the same. Money will come and go, but it's the experiences you will remember.


2. Why do we choose long term suffering over short term pain?

This question was posed to me by my mentor, Carlo Bellini. He said so many of us choose to stay in situations that cause us long term suffering, instead of experiencing the short term pain of changing it. This got my wheels turning and thinking about my life and where I might be choosing to do this. I ended up acting on this and blew up my life for a hot minute. But, I can honestly say that time heals and I look back knowing it was the right thing to do.


3. Friends are the best medicine

Dan Buettner, author of The Blue Zones, says: “People who have at least three friends they can count on, on a bad day, live about eight years longer than those who are completely isolated”. I wholeheartedly believe this. My ex was envious of my friendships and I always told him that I'd cultivated these friendships over many years - they didn't just happen overnight. I’ve shown up to people’s birthdays, bought their children gifts, invited them out, checked in on them regularly and, most importantly, listened to them without judgement. And, in return, I know who I could call at three o’ clock in the morning to help me. When things turn upside down in your life, who shows up for you is very telling.


4. Never let someone dim your light

This year, I learnt that you shouldn't have to hide parts of yourself to be in a relationship with someone, especially when it’s the most fun parts that you’re hiding. If you dim your light and stop yourself from shining brightly, just to make someone else feel better about their insecurities , it’s a red flag.


5. I am good at what I do

Imposter syndrome is such a bitch.Even though I've spent countless hours educating myself in health, wellness and coaching, I still have those thoughts of: ‘why would anyone work with me?’. But, this year, seeing the transformation in my clients - and the feedback I get from colleagues and friends - has helped me realise I am good at what I do. Like anything, coaching is a practice and the more you do it the better you get, and I'm proud to say I’ve really hit my stride.


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